My rulebook for internet dating
"With great hindsight, I am fully aware of how utterly stupid I have been," said Ms Parke, "and I appreciate that there is little, if any, chance of getting my money back.
"My embarrassment is overwhelming but I feel that I must take this step in reporting my experience in order to help promote awareness and to help other innocents to avoid such devastating situations," she added.
Also, what are appropriate boundaries for drinking alone with the boss on a business trip? (Number of drinks, time of night, etc.) I would say nothing past p.m. This isn’t going to be the answer I think you thought it would be. Your girlfriend is in charge of managing her relationship with her boss and her relationship with you.
You emailed your girlfriend’s boss to complain that that he encroached on your personal relationship by socializing with her on a business trip and because she didn’t call you until later that night? Your actions and your stance here are frighteningly controlling and wrong. I am no fan of getting drunk with coworkers, let alone with bosses, but it’s up to her to decide how she manages her relationships with colleagues.
Back in 2010, Brenda Parke, a 60-year-old retiree, was scammed out of £60,000 after joining an online dating site and befriending a man purporting to be a successful Dutch businessman called Bradford Cole.
Mr Cole told Ms Parke that he was a widower and that he had moved to Britain with his young daughter, Maureen.
As for her boss being “lucky that you didn’t involve HR” … In fact, your girlfriend is the one who’s lucky that you didn’t involve HR, since that would just further add to the professional humiliation you’ve inflicted on her. You took it upon yourself to try to intervene in her work relationships without her permission, and you’ve almost certainly introduced an incredible awkwardness and tension into her relationship with her boss.Though hesitant, she eventually made the transfers and went on to send a further £44,500 to Mr Cole for various travel costs, accommodation, and to help him with his business.Ms Parke realised her mistake when Mr Cole failed to arrive at Birmingham airport where they had agreed to meet so that he could go to the bank with her and return her money.With one in four British adults using a dating website at some point in their life, according to Which?, users are being warned to be vigilant while online, particularly as the fraudster's tactics are becoming more elaborate.
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You also may have caused her boss to be seriously concerned about her welfare at home, because this kind of control and interference is a pretty well-known flag for abuse.